Many people constantly strive for more possessions, approval, and attention in our society. However, this relentless pursuit can leave us feeling exhausted and unfulfilled. Pursuing material wealth and external success can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction.
I have found that chasing acceptance, approval, and significance added to my anxiety levels. I realised I had lost my way and was living according to another's expectations and values. It wasn't until my marriage ended that I felt free to move into a more authentic life, no longer being pushed for wealth and status. I could finally get off the hedonistic treadmill and live a truer life.
I know more about what I value and how to honour that. Although it can be challenging for me and those close to me, I am easier able to say no and have more quiet time. Living my truth was not negatively selfish or wrong, as I had once believed.
While on holiday in Slovenia, I came across a fascinating story that made me smile. It reminded me that sometimes, the most valuable things in life are not things at all.
Once upon a time, in a small fishing village along the coast of Mexico, there lived a humble fisherman. He would wake up early every day, set sail in his small fishing boat, and cast his nets into the sea. He would catch enough fish to provide for his family's needs and have a little extra to sell in the local market.
One day, a successful businessman from a bustling city visited the village. He saw the fisherman unloading his catch and was impressed by the quality and freshness of the fish. Curious, the businessman struck up a conversation with the fisherman.
"I must say, you have quite a talent for fishing," the businessman remarked. "But have you ever considered expanding your operations and catching even more fish? You could build a large fishing fleet and become a wealthy man with your skills."
The fisherman pondered momentarily and replied, "Well, Sir, I am content with what I have. My small boat and the sea provide enough for my family. I have time to spend with my children, relax in the afternoons, and enjoy the company of my friends. I am happy with my simple life."
The businessman, taken aback by the fisherman's response, insisted, "But think about the potential! If you work harder, catch more fish, and expand your business, you could make a lot of money. You could eventually retire and have all the free time you want."
The fisherman smiled and said, "Sir, I understand what you're saying, but I already have free time. I enjoy the simple pleasures of life, spending quality time with my family, fishing with my friends, and experiencing the beauty of nature. Money and success are not my primary goals."
The businessman, realising the wisdom in the fisherman's words, paused and reflected. He realised that he had been so focused on pursuing wealth and success that he had neglected the joy and contentment of simplicity.
At that moment, the businessman had a change of heart. He saw the value in the fisherman's way of life and embraced a more balanced and fulfilling existence. He prioritised quality time with his loved ones and pursued activities that brought him happiness rather than tirelessly chasing after more.
From then on, the businessman would often visit the fishing village, not to persuade the fisherman to change his ways but to learn from him and find inspiration in his contentment and appreciation for life's simple pleasures.
And so, the story of the Mexican fisherman serves as a gentle reminder to find joy and fulfilment in the present moment, to appreciate the beauty of a simple life, and to prioritise what truly matters: love, connection, and happiness.
In a world that's grappling with environmental issues and overconsumption, the message behind redefining success and reflecting on personal values is more crucial than ever. It's a gentle reminder to take a step back, reconnect with our inner selves, and find true happiness and contentment in our fast-paced lives. Let us all strive to slow down and prioritise what truly matters.
I am here to help you identify what truly matters to you and guide you on how to live a life that aligns with your values. You can easily get in touch with me through email or phone. Let's connect and get started.
Love Love Caron xox