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Being available 24/7 isn’t kindness. It’s self-abandonment in disguise.


Stop pretending that constantly being “on” makes you a good person. It doesn’t. It makes you exhausted.

We’ve all been sold the lie that being there for everyone, all the time, is the ultimate form of love. But deep down, we know it’s not.


Here’s the real truth: You don’t need to prove your worth by constantly saying “yes” or rushing to fix everyone’s problems.

That’s not love. That’s people-pleasing.


And guess what? It’s exhausting. Emotionally, mentally, physically. And it’s a silent killer of your energy and your self-worth. You’re saying “yes” because you’re afraid of disappointing, of being seen as selfish, or not “enough.” But here’s the thing: That’s not love. That’s fear.


Real self-love is setting boundaries. It’s saying no to the people, things, and habits that drain you. It’s protecting your peace, even if others don’t understand. It’s choosing to spend time with yourself in silence, without guilt. It’s knowing your worth is not dependent on your availability.


You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to not answer that text right away. You’re allowed to turn your phone off . You’re allowed to create space for yourself. Because when you do, that’s when you’re at your best for everyone around you.


Being “nice” isn’t the same as being authentic.

Real self-love is not about saying “yes” to everything, it’s about knowing when to say no—for your own damn sanity.


You are not here to fix everyone else. You are not a 24-hour service station. You are not responsible for filling other people's tanks—only your own.


And if anyone tells you that taking care of yourself is selfish, remind them that they’re confusing self-love with self-abandonment.


Stop wearing your exhaustion like a badge of honour. It’s time to stop saying “yes” to everything and everyone, and say “yes” to yourself first.


Starter Tool: The 24-Hour Pause

Next time you feel the urge to say “yes” to something or someone, pause for 24 hours before responding.


In that time, ask yourself:

  • Do I have the energy for this?

  • Does this align with my values and needs?

  • Is this coming from a place of true desire or fear of disappointing someone?


Take that time for YOU. You’ll be amazed at how much clearer your response will be—and how much more in control you feel.


Give yourself the gift of time to reflect before you react.


I am here for you xx

Love, love Caron





 
 
 

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