One of The Hardest Truths About People

Even the most beautiful rose cannot blossom in the desert. Choose the soil, the sun, and the care that let you bloom.

The Choice to Protect Yourself

You do not have to stay in places or with people who do not make you feel good, those full of negativity and doom, always focused on what is wrong. It is a choice. You might say, “But it is my family, my friends, my colleagues”, darling, it is still a choice. And if you choose to stay, what will you carry on?

Most negative people do not change. They drain your energy.

I know because I have been there. I have worked with people like this, I have had friends like this. I created stress trying to help, advise, and support. But I learned something important.

The Hardest Truths About People

One of the hardest truths to accept is that even family and friends can be blind and unaware of their own actions. Some people need help and know it, so they do the work, make the changes, and grow. Others need help but cannot take the steps to get it. Staying stuck becomes easier than facing change. Over time, it can become a part of their personality, and they may believe it is just who they are.

It is one of the hardest things to remember:

I am not here to empty my energy for people who may not even realise they are draining me.

Doing the Work for Yourself

I do my best to work on myself every day. I am writing this blog because I have been reflecting this morning. While many people wake up and repeat the same day, I choose to pause, notice, and grow. It is not easy to be self-aware and face the hard bits, but it is blissful and transformative when you do. It changes how you feel about yourself and transforms your whole day into something lighter and more positive.

I am not saying I do not have times when I feel negative, angry, or frustrated with myself or someone else. The difference is I am aware of it. I do the work to process these natural feelings. I do my best to reset, to grow, and to remember that it is okay to have bad days. The key is not to get stuck.

Sometimes, you can help someone you have been struggling with by detaching a little. If they have not moved forward or made progress with all the help you have given, maybe it is time they try it themselves.

We cannot walk for our children.

We encourage them, we hold their hands, but ultimately we have to let go, watch them stumble, and see them try again. That is how they build themselves up. Supporting from the sidelines is not draining. It is empowering for both of you.

Flowers That Cannot Grow in a Desert

Some flowers cannot grow in a desert. These flowers need rich soil, steady water, and gentle care. In life, these flowers are like you when you are full of potential, dreams, and energy. You cannot thrive in places or around people that are harsh, draining, or neglectful.

Roses, tulips, lilies, peonies, gardenias, and hydrangeas need the right conditions to bloom.

Just like you. If you try to grow where the soil is poor, the sun is too harsh, or the rain never comes, you will struggle, no matter how strong the seed is.

The truth is, you cannot plant yourself where you are not nourished. Protect your energy. Choose your people and spaces wisely. Grow flowers for yourself in your own garden, in your own way. That is where you will truly flourish.

Moving Forward with Love, Grace, and Peace

I know it is not easy. Life throws obstacles in the way, and people and situations can feel heavy.

That is why I am here: to help ease the transition, to support you as you move forward with love, grace, and peace. You are here for a worthwhile purpose. Even when it feels hard, taking the steps to protect yourself and grow is the best way to honour that purpose.

Protect your energy, babe, make boundaries.

When I do this, everything changes.

Love Love C xx