What Part of Today Belongs Solely to Me?

Caron Proctor
Oct 1
2 min read

Updated: Oct 14

Embracing Your Time

We all know we’re “supposed” to put our oxygen mask on first. Sounds easy, right? But somehow, day after day, we forget.

Instead, we whisper little lies that feel responsible, kind, or noble but mostly just guilt us into exhaustion:

“I’d better recycle everything.”
“I should finish everything on my massive plate.”
“Cake is bad.”
“I can’t be late.”
“I really can’t finish work early.”
“I need to exercise every day, or I’ll get fat, old, lazy.”
“I’d better say yes, or they’ll be upset.”
“I can’t spend money unless I’ve earned it.”
“I have to help everyone.”
“I’d better keep quiet, and defo don’t say F@@k.”
“I need to stay calm.”
“I need to make sure everyone understands everything.”
“I have to raise heaps of money for charity.”
“I’m fine, I’ll do it.”
“I have to make this work.”

Sound familiar? Yeah… It’s exhausting just reading it. The truth is, the more we live these “nice, responsible” lies, the less time and energy we have for the things that actually feed us.

The Power of Radical Honesty

So what’s the alternative? Radical honesty. It’s about speaking and acting from your truth. Even a little bit counts.

Cake isn't bad on occasion. Eat it, savour it, enjoy it.
A few minutes late? Calm down, the world won’t fall apart.
Finishing work early? Do it more often. Who made these rules?
Missed the workout? You'll feel rested.
Saying no? Absolutely vital for one's happiness!
Spending on yourself? Absolutely. You matter.
Got an opinion? Say it. Want to swear? Go on then...
Feeling stressed or messy inside? Normal. You don’t have to stay calm all the time; that would literally be insane.
Not everything has to “work.” You did your best; some people never tried.

Carving Out Time for Yourself

The kicker, babe? If we don’t start honouring our truth, we never carve out even a tiny slice of time just for us.

No quiet coffee, no long shower, no staring at the sky, no wandering around researching pug puppies, or reading in bed before anyone else is awake. There’s no being there just for ourselves.

Even five minutes a day that belong solely to you makes a world of difference. It’s how you refill, reconnect, and remember who you are: you matter too.

Make It a Daily Practice

✨ Ask yourself today: What part of your day belongs solely to me?

Claim it. Protect it. Do it. And trust me, everything else can wait. A calmer, happier, more alive you shows up better for everyone you love.

Conclusion

In our busy lives, it's easy to forget that we deserve time for ourselves. Remember, it's not selfish to take a moment for you. It's essential. By embracing radical honesty and carving out time in your day, you can nurture your spirit and recharge your energy.

So, let’s make a promise to ourselves. Let’s claim those moments. Let’s protect them fiercely. You are worthy of this time.

Love,

Caron xox