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You Don't Have Always to Be the Helper to Be a Good Person

You know how we're often told that being a good person means always being there to help others? Well, let's take a step back and think about this. True goodness is more than just constantly saving the day, and babe, being a rescuer is often linked to your own unhealed wounds.

Let's question this belief and realise that true goodness extends beyond being the constant rescuer.

Unpacking the Myth:

Thinking that you have to help all the time sets up unrealistic expectations. Natural goodness involves more than just constantly coming to the rescue – it's about being genuine to yourself.

Setting Boundaries:

Being a good person means knowing when to say 'no' and recognising that taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's about respecting your limits and well-being.

Authenticity First:

Being genuinely kind is more than just being a constant helper. It's about understanding and respecting others' growth and autonomy without swooping in and saving the day.

Encouraging Mutual Support:

Let's shift the idea of goodness from always being the helper to promoting relationships where everyone plays a part. When both sides contribute and grow, that's where the real goodness shines.

Redefining Goodness:

Goodness is more than just helping out; it's about showing empathy, compassion, and understanding. It's being there, listening, and creating an environment where everyone's well-being matters. And that means YOURS, babe!

Strike a Balance:

Rescuing others, while often well-intentioned, can inadvertently strip them of the opportunity to develop self-confidence

While helping others is valuable, it's essential to strike a balance that allows individuals to face and overcome challenges independently. Allowing others to navigate difficulties, make decisions, and learn from their experiences is crucial to fostering self-confidence and personal growth.


It's time to let go of the idea that being a good person means always being the rescuer. We can build relationships based on mutual respect and growth by embracing boundaries, authenticity, and a broader view of goodness. In this shift, the true meaning of being a good person unfolds, going beyond the pressure of constant assistance.

Although helping others is generally seen as a positive trait, it is important to maintain a balance. Focusing too much on helping others while neglecting your own well-being can lead to codependency or burnout. 

For guidance and coaching to become your own strong guide, connect with me, and I will work with you to help you move from the draining habit of over-helping and give you the tools to live your life with positive strength and boundaries so that you can laugh at the proof of your higher, happier self.

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I would love to hear from you.

Love, love Caron xx

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